pɑr ti/ [pahr-tee] noun, plural -ties
a social gathering, of invited guests, for conversation, refreshments, entertainment, celebration, etc.
The nature of any party is as unique as a fingerprint. An alchemy occurs between host, guests, location and decor that is distinct. We all think we know what a party is, but at the end of the day whether we are the host or the guest we often feel anxiety before a party. Social anxiety is a by-product of uncertainty. The best way to eliminate party related anxiety is to be informed and prepared. Issues that surround parties as in most of life are who, what, wear, where, when and why.
Who – Who is the host and who is attending? If you are uncertain ask around. Parties like any gathering stem from a common ground. It might be business based, club based or neighborhood based. You will undoubtedly know someone and it is a wonderful opportunity to meet neighbors, business associates or a possible new friend.
What – What is the nature of the party? Is it a small, informal get together, a fiftieth wedding anniversary, a garden wedding or a barbecue? Until you are comfortable with the details you won’t know what to wear, what to bring for a hostess gift or who you might meet.
Wear – What will I wear is the most common question related to parties. Remember when planning your outfit to consider the who and what. You may be most comfortable in cut-offs and flip flops but if you have been asked to a sit down dinner or cocktail party consider the host and other guests.
Where – If you have not been to the party location before take the time to get directions. A quick mapquest search can ease your anxiety about how to get to the party destination.
When – As the host, set a realistic time line to accomplish the tasks related to your event. A failure to do so leads to unnecessary stress that is often difficult to hide from your guests. As a guest, honor the time stated in the invitation. If you are perpetually late make a point of leaving fifteen minutes before the estimated travel time for arrival.
Why – Any party is a celebration. A party can be two people honoring a special anniversary, a dinner among friends or an annual gala to raise money for a local institution. Regardless of the why the desired outcome is a memorable event that is enjoyable. As the host you want to feel like a member of the party not someone standing on the outside. This is not an impossible goal! There are resources available to allow you to be hands on or to delegate the party tasks to reliable vendors in your area. As a guest you will be prepared to enjoy the party if you know the necessary details. Timeline, type of party and right attire for the right occasion will help to put you at ease so you can focus on existing friends and new acquaintances.